Thursday 29 September 2011

Anger ....


Anger .....


Anger is like flowing water; there's nothing wrong with it as long as you let it flow.
Hate is like stagnant water; anger that you denied yourself the freedom to feel, the freedom to flow; water that you gathered in one place and left to forget.

Stagnant water becomes dirty, stinky, disease-ridden, poisonous, deadly; that is your hate. On flowing water travels little paper boats; paper boats of forgiveness. Allow yourself to feel anger, allow your waters to flow, along with all the paper boats of forgiveness. Be human.

An Appointment .........


Carl Jung was a world famous psychologist who studied human behaviour at great length and shared many thoughts on why people do certain things. Many people made appointments to see him.

One day a wealthy lady phoned him to request an urgent appointment the next day at 3 pm. He said it wouldn’t be possible because he was committed to an important appointment at that time. The following day the same lady happened to be in a boat sailing past his garden which led down to the shore of the Lake of Zurich. There she could see him, sitting on a low wall with his shoes and socks off, dangling his feet in the water.

She was angry that he had lied to her and that he had no appointment at all. She arrived home and rang him straight away: “You said you couldn’t see me because you had a very important engagement. But I just saw you now doing nothing and sitting on the shore of the lake by yourself.”

He replied: “I told you no lie. I had an appointment. It has been the most important appointment of the week, an appointment with myself.

Kuasa Allah Sebelum gempa Tsunami Aceh ........

Hati Emas .............


Ramai orang yang punya akal tetapi malangnya ‘tidak berakal’. Maksudnya, mereka tidak menggunakan akal untuk berfikir. Padahal fikir itu ialah pelita bagi hati. Justeru di dalam Al Quran Allah sering mengingatkan manusia agar selalu berfikir, menggunakan akal untuk tadabbur akan ayat-ayatNya dan mengambil ibrah daripada segala kisah yang daripada Al Quran.

Malangnya, sedikit sekali ‘orang yang berakal’ walaupun ramai yang mempunyai akal. Hingga dengan itu ramai manusia yang tidak terasa kebesaran Allah, terlindung oleh keegoaan dirinya. Tidak mahu bersyukur kepada Allah kerana terhijab oleh kudrat dirinya. 

Itu sekadar renungan awal. Seperti mana ada orang yang punya akal tetapi tidak berakal, maka begitulah ramai ‘orang agama’ tetapi tidak beragama. Maksudnya, dia punya latar belakang pendidikan agama – mahir dengan segala wahyu dan sabda, tetapi segala-galanya tidak memberi impak kepada perilaku dan akhlaknya.

Kita sering bertemu dengan orang yang sedemikian. Kita kagum dengan latar belakang kelulusannya, cakap-cakapnya, malah kekadang ceramah-ceramah serta kuliahnya tetapi apabila kita mula mendekatinya… hati kita tertanya-tanya, apakah ini teladan beragama yang sebenarnya?

Kekadang kita terkesima dengan individu-individu yang sederhana dan latar belakang pendidikan agamanya sangat minimum (bukan tidak ada langsung), tetapi lebih warak, istiqamah dan jujur dalam pergaulan. Dia tidak ‘berminyak air’. Apa yang dipaparkannya di hadapan dan di belakang orang sama.

Saya kagum dengan beberapa orang individu yang saya kenali dalam kehidupan ini yang begitu teliti dengan makanan yang hendak diambilnya, wang yang pernah dia berhutang, komen yang hendak dilontarkannya kepada seseorang, sangat menjaga lidah dan tawaduk dalam pergaulan.

Ilmu agamanya tidak tinggi tetapi apa yang ada itu benar-benar diamalkan dan membekas (memberi impak) kepada peribadinya. Ilmu yang banyak tentulah penting. Tetapi bukan semua orang berkesempatan dan punya peluang untuk belajar di peringkat sarjana, master mahupun doktor apatah lagi profesor.

Ramai yang hanya di tahap ‘lepas fardu Ain’… Namun Allah Maha Penyayang, kekadang ada manusia yang diberi ‘hati yang bercahaya’ berbanding ‘otak yang bergeliga’, hingga dengan itu sedikit ilmu yang ada mampu dimanfaatkan seoptimumnya.

Sepanjang kembara dalam usia mencecah 50 tahun, saya temui figur-figur yang bercakap bukan dari kepalanya, tetapi dari hati. Orang yang begini bercakap tulus dan telus. Tanpa bunga-bunga kata, tanpa kilasan bahasa. Cakapnya sungguh bersahaja.

Kekadang dia tidak punya kelulusan atau jawatan yang tinggi. Namun body language – bahasa badannya (yang lebih jujur dan asli) – memancarkan cahaya keyakinan, keikhlasan dan kematangan. Jika orang lain hanya menyampaikan ilmu, tetapi dia menyampaikan hikmah. Pada saya mereka inilah ‘orang-orang kecil’ yang begitu besar dalam arena pendidikan.

Memang ada ilmu yang tidak boleh diajar, tetapi hanya boleh dipelajari. Guru yang sebegini selalunya bukan mengajar dengan huruf dan angka tetapi dengan gerak hati dan rasa. Mereka hanya mengamalkan apa yang mereka tahu. Dan ‘murid-murid’ tidak rasminya belajar daripada teladan yang dapat dilihat. Bukan dengan mendengar, menulis atau membaca. Dewan kuliahnya luas, seluas bidang kehidupan. Ketika para profesor atau doktor mendefinasikan, mencirikan dan mengupas ilmu rumah tangga secara ilmiah, mereka secara ‘simple’ menyampaikan ilmu itu secara amaliah.

Rajin-rajinkanlah menajam pandangan mata hati untuk mencari orang yang begini. Kehidupan mereka adakalanya sungguh sederhana tetapi sangat bahagia. Kejernihan wajah mengukir senyuman menjadikan kita tertanya-tanya apakah rahsia ketenangan mereka. Orang sibuk membeli katil dan tilam empuk, mereka puas dengan tidur yang lena. Orang lain sibuk dengan makanan lazat dan berzat, resipi itu dan ini, mereka makan seadanya tetapi sungguh berselera. Mereka punya ‘harta’ yang tidak akan dapat dirompak. Mereka juga punya kekayaan yang tidak mengundang caci-maki dan hasad dengki manusia.

Mereka ini bukan selebriti yang tersohor atau produk program realiti agama yang semakin banyak ketika ini. Mereka ini terselit di tengah-tengah masyarakat tanpa ‘glamour’ dan gelaran. Mereka juga tidak diuar-uarkan dalam kitaran strategi promosi dunia pasaran kontemporari yang bernuansa Islam .Tegasnya, mereka ini tidak ada nilai komersial – tidak , cukup pakej, kata orang sekarang. Mereka ini hanya produk ‘universiti kehidupan’ – yang mendapat ijazah melalui mehnah dan mujahadah. Ya Allah, temukan kami dengan orang ini, manalah tahu mereka itulah pewaris hati Uwais Al Qarni yang doanya mustajab dan kata-katanya mujarab untuk merawat mazmumah yang masih bersarang dalam jiwa ini.

Sahabat-sahabat ku (pengunjung gentarasa), kekadang terlalu banyak untuk ditulis sehingga tidak mampu dituang oleh kata-kata dan bahasa. Makna kadang-kadang tercari-cari kata-kata kerana sering diungkapkan sesuatu yang indah hanya dapat dirasa tetapi sukar untuk diungkapkan. Ya, tiada kata secantik bahasa… untuk mengungkapkan segala perasaan. Namun, keindahan itu bukan hanya untuk dirasa, tetapi untuk dijelmakan dalam bentuk perbuatan dan tindakan. Ya Allah, jangan jadikan kami orang yang terhijab oleh rasa-rasa yang tidak keruan, disangka kebenaran rupa-rupanya bisikan syaitan!

Untuk mu sahabat-sahabatku, aku tinggalkan sedikit catatan… di nota hati yang ‘bergenta’ beberapa minggu yang lalu. Ini adalah kesah protes hatiku terhadap orang agama yang tidak beragama. Yang tanpa sedar mereka (atau kita juga?) telah menjadi umpama ulu kapak (yang terbuat dari kayu) untuk menebang kayu. Pinta dijauhkan agar janganlah ‘orang agama’ menjadi fitnah terhadap agama.

Namun, aku tidak mahu mencoret kisah marah. Justeru, menyedari bahawa diri ini juga acap kali terperangkap dalam tipuan yang sama. Lalu kupintal-pintal rasa marah menjadi kisah kagum, harmoni bernada muhasabah. Ya, akhirnya ku coretkan catatan ini. Cuma kisah sekeping hati.. 

HATI SEORANG PEMANDU TEKSI

Aku melihat dirinya sangat sederhana. Seorang pemandu teksi yang acap kali singgah untuk solat Subuh di masjid berhampiran dengan rumah ku. Kekadang aku berpapasan dengannya lewat solat Asar – jika kebetulan pulang awal dari kerja. Wajahnya jernih walaupun jelas telah berusia. Umurnya, sekitar 65 tahun, mungkin.

“Kenapa masih bekerja Pak cik?”

“Kenapa? Pak Cik dah nampak tua?” tanyanya kembali.

Aku tersenyum. Senang dengan kemesraannya.

“Anak-anak masih kecil?” tanyaku lagi, mencungkil sebab sebenar dia masih bekerja walaupun selayaknya pada usia begitu dia berehat.

“Ah, Pak Cik dah bercucu. Alhamdulillah anak-anak semuanya dah bekerja. Ada juga yang berniaga,” kilas Pak cik itu bersahaja.

“Kenapa Pak cik masih bekerja?” tanyaku lagi sambil memegang bahunya mesra.

“Bukankah bekerja itu satu ibadah? Ibadah mana ada pencen,”jawabnya pendek.

Aku terdiam. Inilah inti pati kuliah ‘Penghayatan Kerja Sebagai Satu Ibadah’ yang selalu aku sampaikan dalam program-program latihan dan ceramah. Terasa malu, aku yang selalu menyampaikan ilmu tetapi Pak Cik ini yang menghayati dan mengamalkannya. Ya, kalau kita bekerja kerana ganjaran dan imbuhan, kita akan berhenti sebaik sahaja kita mendapatnya. Tetapi kalau kita bekerja kerana Allah, atas dasar ibadah, kita akan terus bekerja walaupun telah mendapat imbuhan. Selagi ada tenaga. Walaupun aku kira Pak cik ini telah mendapat bantuan daripada anak-anaknya tetapi dia tetap bekerja kerana dia bekerja bukan kerana wang. Dia bekerja kerana Allah.

“Pak Cik gembira dengan kerja ni?”

“Gembira. Pak Cik tak ada kepandaian lain. Inilah sahaja kepandaian Pak Cik. Bawa teksi. Dengan cara inilah sahaja Pak cik memberi khidmat kepada manusia lain,” akuinya terus-terang. Hebat, inilah yang dimaksudkan oleh hadis Rasulullah s.a.w. yang selalu disampaikan oleh para ustaz, sebaik-baik manusia ialah manusia yang memberi manfaat kepada manusia lain.

“Awal Pak Cik dah keluar? Lepas Subuh terus bekerja?”

“Pagi-pagi ni murah rezeki. Pak Cik suka mula awal tetapi habis awal. Malam boleh tumpukan kerja lain.”

“Malam pun Pak Cik kerja juga?”

“Bukan kerja… Pak cik ikut kuliah-kuliah agama, belajar tajwid semula dan kadangkala ikut dalam majlis zikir. Itulah kerja Pak Cik yang dah berumur ni.”

Subhanallah, sekali lagi Pak Cik ini mengamalkan apa yang disebut dalam Al Quran ‘fa iza faraghta fan sab’ – maka apabila engkau telah selesai (dari satu urusan) tetaplah bekerja keras (untuk urusan lain), maksudnya selesai satu ibadah, kita sambung terus dengan ibadah yang lain pula. Tidak ada istilah rehat yang hakiki di dunia. Kita beribadah ‘around the clock’ – sepanjang waktu. Rehat hanya di syurga.

“Pak Cik dulu mengaji agama di mana?” aku terus mencungkil.

“Pak cik tak pernah mengaji agama secara rasmi. Dulu sekolah kebangsaan sahaja. Apa yang Pak cik dapat hasil mendengar sahaja. Mengaji dengar-dengar, kata orang. Kadangkala di masjid, di surau, dalam radio atau melalui perbualan-perbualan biasa.”

“Apa yang Pak Cik cari semasa mengaji secara dengar-dengar tu?”

“Pak Cik pegang satu sahaja, bila dapat kita terus amal. Baru ilmu tu berkat.”

Aku senyum. Memang luar biasa Pak Cik yang kelihatan biasa-biasa ini. Aku mendapat berita Pak Cik ini pernah memulangkan wang berjumlah RM 5 ribu yang tertinggal oleh penumpang dalam teksinya. Pernah juga dia bergelut dengan lelaki yang cuba merompak teksinya. Keberanian, kejujuran dan istiqamahnya menjaga solat jemaah sangat aku kagumi.

“Sekarang ni mudah dapat pelanggan?”

“Ada kala mudah, ada kalanya payah. Tak menentu. Sekarang ni susah nak jangka.”

“Kalau pelanggan tidak da bagaimana?”

“Tu, CD kuliah-kuliah agama. Pak Cik habiskan masa dengan dengar kuliah agama. Kalau letih mendengar Pak Cik cubalah zikir sedikit-sedikit. Rezeki tetap ada. Tidak dalam bentuk duit, kita dapat dalam bentuk ilmu.”

“Pak Cik sihat? Tak da sakit-sakit?”

“Sakit tu mesti ada. Badan dah tua. Lenguh-lenguh, sakit urat. Tetapi yang berat-berat tu tak adalah. Alhamdulillah.”

“Pak Cik makan makanan tambahan? Food supplement?” jolok aku.

“Tak da. Pak Cik cuma jaga makan dan joging. Tubuh kita ni bukan kita punya… kena jaga baik-baik.”

“Eh, Pak Cik, sepatutnya yang kita punyalah kita kena jaga baik-baik.”

“Tak tahulah Pak Cik. Tapi Pak Cik anggap tubuh kita ini amanah Allah. Bila amanah, kita perlulah jaga baik-baik.”

Terkedu aku dengan jawapan itu. Dalam hati aku mengagumi orang seperti Pak Cik ini. Orang tua yang ‘simple’, tenang dan punya prinsip yang tepat dan jelas dalam hidup. Dia bukan sahaja memandu teksi tetapi dia benar-benar memandu kehidupannya. Individu yang dianggap marhaen ini rupanya punya ‘hati emas’. Isi cakap dan sikapnya semuanya Al Quran dan Al Hadis, walaupun dia tidak petah menuturkan ayat Al Quran dan lafaz hadis. Sesungguhnya, dia jauh lebih baik daripada para ustaz mahupun orang yang digelar alim, yang mulutnya berbuih dengan ayat Quran dan Al hadis tetapi praktik, hati budi serta gaya hidupnya berbeza dengan ayat Quran dan Al hadis yang menjadi perhiasan lidahnya!.

Kisah Pak Cik pemandu teksi ini mengingatkan aku kepada budak gembala kambing yang diuji oleh Amirul Mukminin Sayidina Umar Al Khattab di tengah padang pasir. Apabila Sayidina Umar mengatakan bahawa tuan punya kambing tidak akan tahu jika budak gembala itu menjual seekor kambing secara senyap-senyap, budak itu lantas berkata, “kalau begitu di mana Allah?”

Begitu juga dengan kisah seorang gadis yang tidak mahu mencampurkan air ke dalam susu yang dijualnya walaupun disuruh oleh ibunya berbuat demikian.

“Kita tidak boleh mencampurkan susu ini dengan air ibu. Amirul Mukminin Sayidina Umar telah melarang perbuatan ini.”

“Ah, kita di dalam rumah kita. Bukankah ini waktu malam? Umar tidak akan tahu,” balas ibunya.

“Tapi Tuhan Umar tahu! Allah tahu ibu.”

Kata-kata budak gembala kambing, “kalau begitu di mana Allah?” dan gadis penjual susu, “tetapi Tuhan Umar tahu,” sesungguhnya bukan Al Quran dan bukan hadis tetapi rohnya, isinya dan mesejnya sejajar dengan Al Quran dan hadis. Itulah natijah pemikiran dan jiwa yang telah dibentuk oleh iman, lafaz kebenaran boleh jadi diluahkan dalam bahasa pertuturan yang biasa-biasa sahaja tetapi jika dicari dalil dan hujahnya dalam Hadis dan Al Quran, pasti ditemui.

Kembali kepada cerita Pak Cik pemandu teksi yang menjadi teman bual aku di serambi masjid selepas sama-sama mengerjakan solat Asar tadi.

“Pak Cik, apa yang paling susah sewaktu bekerja sebagai pemandu teksi ni?”

“Nak balas kejahatan dengan satu kebaikan. Itu yang paling susah. Pelanggan maki kita, kita balas dengan senyum. Orang herdik kita, kita minta maaf. Orang cuba tipu kita, kita mengelak dengan baik.”

“Mengapa begitu Pak Cik?”

Dia terdiam. Setelah merenung agak panjang beliau berkata, “ itulah ujian yang menentukan kita ikhlas atau tidak… Kalau kita buat kerana Allah, Insya-Allah, kita boleh balas kejahatan dengan kebaikan. Atau sekurang-kurangnya tidak membalas. Kita diam sahaja..”

Sekali lagi Pak Cik pemandu teksi ini telah menuturkan hikmah yang pernah disampaikan oleh Sayidina Ali. “Tanda ikhlas itu…, kata Sayidina Ali, “ialah apabila pujian tidak menyebabkan kau menambah amal. Dan kejian manusia tidak menyebabkan kau mengurangkannya. Di hadapan dan di belakang manusia, ibadah mu tetap sama.”

Dan sesungguhnya itulah juga inti pati ayat Al Quran, surah Fussilat: 34 yang bermaksud, “ tolaklah kejahatan yang ditujukan kepada mu dengan cara yang lebih baik; apabila engkau berbuat demikian maka orang yang menaruh rasa permusuhan terhadap mu dengan serta-merta akan menjadi seolah-olah seorang sahabat karib.”

Setelah bersalaman, Pak Cik pemandu teksi itu menuju teksinya.

“Ada janji dengan pelanggan. Assalamualaikum,” katanya, terus memandu teksinya dengan ceria. Aku? Aku terus duduk di tangga masjid sambil menghitung diri. Bolehkah aku meneladaninya? Bolehkah aku membalas kejahatan dengan satu kebaikan? Atau aku akan terus sibuk mencari dalil dan fakta untuk bahan tulisan atau ceramah sedangkan ada insan lain yang jauh lebih ikhlas telah mengamalkannya dalam kehidupan? Ya, alangkah dungunya kita kalau hanya sibuk menghafal nama makanan sedangkan orang lain telah memakannya? Begitulah perumpamaannya…

"SHARING IS CARING"  

Sumber: GENTA RASA

Jelmaan wajah aneh di Masjid Kristal,Terengganu .........

Sunday 25 September 2011

5 Powerful Foods that Lower Your Blood Pressure ..............

What are the Risk Factors Associated with High Blood Pressure?
Blood pressure can be influenced by a lot of factors – age, race, family history, tobacco use, sedentary lifestyle, diet, binge drinking, and stress levels. Chronic conditions such as sleep apnea, diabetes and high cholesterol levels can also precipitate the development of hypertension.


What can You Do to Lower Blood Pressure?
You don't need potentially dangerous drugs to control and reduce your blood pressure. Controlling blood pressure levels could be as simple as doing lifestyle modifications and eating healthier.
If you are a smoker, quit. If you drink heavily, try to practice self-control. At work, take the stairs instead of the elevator. And if you have been obsessed with sweet, sugary foods as well as processed fast-food meals, then modify your eating habits as well. Learn to eat the right kinds of food before it's too late.


Below are 5 of my top picks for powerful foods that could help you lower your blood pressure levels:

artichokes help lower blood pressure1. Artichokes
The use of artichokes has been implicated in the lowering of cholesterol levels in the blood. Since hypercholesterolemia is one of the risk factors for high blood pressure, this information is actually good news.  Three clinical trials conducted separately by Dr. Barbara Wider supports this fact. In Cochrane Database of Systemic Reviews’ October 2009 issue, where the result of the study was published, it was shown that patients who were diagnosed with hypercholesterolemia and given Artichoke leaf extract exhibited a decrease in their blood cholesterol levels.

Artichokes taste amazing steamed (generally steam for about 1 hour) and then dip each piece into a mixture of olive oil, grass-fed butter, and garlic.  Delicious!


bananas cut high blood pressure2.  Bananas
A study published in The New England Journal of Medicine says that incorporating bananas in your day-to-day meals can actually cut stroke-related deaths by as much as 40 percent. A 1997 study at Johns Hopkins University recommended eating at least five bananas daily to achieve the desired effect, and that is to lower elevated blood pressure levels. However, a study conducted by Indian researchers at the Kasturba medical college revealed that people who eat two bananas a day, for one whole week, can lower their blood pressure levels by 10 percent.

Bananas are rich in potassium, which is responsible for the proper functioning of the heart.  It works with sodium to maintain balance of the body’s fluids, which is an important factor in the regulation of blood pressure.



compounds in beets beat blood pressure3.  Beets
A research study conducted by scientists from Barts and The London School Medicine revealed that simply drinking one 500 ml glass of beetroot juice each day can produce astounding health benefits, especially to the heart.

Beetroot juice has been found to lower high blood pressure levels. Professors Amrita Ahluwalia and Ben Benjamin, from the William Harvey Research Institute and Peninsula Medical Center, respectively, led the research efforts, which revealed that the consumption of dietary nitrate that is found in beetroot has BP-lowering effects in as fast as 1 hour after ingestion, with the effect lasting for up to 24 hours. The result of the study was published in the March 2008 issue of Hypertension.

You can try beetroot juice, or also try baked beets sliced on salads or as a side dish to dinner.


cocoa helps lower blood pressure4.  Cocoa
A study conducted by researchers from Germany’s University Hospital of Cologne revealed that cocoa can significantly lower high blood pressure levels. Study results were published in the Archives of Internal Medicine. The beneficial heart effects of cocoa are attributed to its flavonoid content, specifically procyanids.

Because cocoa is most commonly found in chocolate, people falsely assume that eating a lot of chocolate could be good for the health. Keep in mind that cocoa in chocolates have undergone a lot of processing, and it has been mixed with loads of sugar, so this is not totally healthy. The best way to take advantage of the health benefits offered by cocoa is to choose raw cacao – it is good for the heart, the brain and the liver.  Raw cacao nibs go great in smoothies!  Also use organic cocoa powder in smoothies or homemade hot cocoa sweetened with stevia instead of sugar.


garlic fights hypertension5.  Garlic
Researchers from South Australia’s University of Adelaide have conducted studies, which provide solid proof that the consumption of garlic can indeed help lower elevated blood pressure levels. Garlic supplements in powder form were given and results revealed that it produced a reduction in systolic blood pressure. Garlic has been known all over the world as a very important herb, especially with its heart-protecting capabilities. It helps lower blood cholesterol levels and prevents blood from forming clots (which could lead to heart attack and stroke).

Furthermore, the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences journal has published the results of a laboratory test showing how garlic juice can lead to a decrease in blood pressure levels. Eating the equivalent of 2 cloves of garlic each day can significantly contribute to the health of the heart.

Hak ............

Mencintai seseorang itu adalah hak kita, namun memiliki seseorang yang kita cintai tanpa ikatan sah dan halal itu bukan hak kita. Jangan pernah takut melepaskan sesuatu yang belum berhak kita miliki. Dia pasti akan kembali seandainya Allah menjadikan dia untuk kita miliki atau Allah akan menggantikan dengan yang jauh lebih baik. Jangan pernah takut kehilangan sesuatu yang BUKAN hak kita.

Jadikan ini sebagai satu pegangan :
"SAYA BELUM TENTU AKAN MENIKAHI ORANG YANG SAYA CINTAI, TAPI SAYA AKAN MENCINTAI ORANG YANG SAYA NIKAHI!"

Saturday 24 September 2011

10 Surah Yang Mujarab Pesan Nabi Muhammad S.A.W .............

1. SURAH AL-FATIHAH
Amalkan membaca Surah Al-Fatihah semasa hendak tidur diikuti dengan membaca Surah Al-Ikhlas 3 kali, Surah Al-Falaq dan Surah An-Nas. Insya’Allah akan aman tenteram dan terjauh daripada gangguan syaitan. Dianjurkan juga membaca surah ini sebanyak 44 kali untuk mengubati sakit mata, perut, gigi dan lain-lainnya dengan izin Allah s.w.t. Untuk mencegah kemarahan Allah, bacalah surah ini sebanyak 17 kali sehari iaitu dengan mengerjakan solat 5 waktu.

2. SURAH YAASIN
Telah bersabda Rasulullah s.a.w., sesungguhnya bagi setiap sesuatu itu ada hati, dan hati Al-Qur’an ialah Surah Yaasin iaitu jantung Al-Qur’an. Sesiapa yang membaca Surah Yaasin, nescaya dituliskan oleh Allah pahala menyamai sepuluh kali membaca Al-Qur’an seluruhnya. (Hadis riwayat At-Tarmizi dari Anas r.a.) Rasulullah s.a.w. juga bersabda : Surah Yaasin dinamakan di dalam kitab Taurat dengan sebutan “At-Mu’ammah” (yang umum), yang mengumumkan pembacanya dengan kebaikan dunia dan akhirat, menanggung segala bala baik dari kesusahan di dunia mahu pun akhirat. Pembaca juga akan dilindungi dari setiap keburukan dan kejahatan serta segala hajat dan kemahuan akan Allah kabulkan. Jika dibaca dalam satu malam semata-mata mengharapkan keredaan Allah, nescaya Allah akan mengampunkan dosanya. (Hadis riwayat Malik, Ibnu-Sunni dan Ibnu Hibban). Surah Yaasin ni juga jika diamalkan, akan terselamatlah kita dari kehausan di hari KIAMAT.

3. SURAH AT-DHUHAN
Dibaca sekali pada malam Jumaat agar kita terselamat dari huru hara di Padang Mahsyar.

4. SURAH AL-WAQI’AH
Menurut beberapa hadis Rasulullah s.a.w., mereka yang mengamalkan membaca Surah Al-Waqi’ah pada tiap-tiap malam, insya’Allah tidak akan merasai kepapaan. Mereka yang membacanya sebagai wirid, insya’Allah akan beroleh kesenangan selama-lamanya.  

Mereka yang membacanya sebanyak 14 kali setiap lepas solat As ar, insya’Allah akan dikurniakan dengan rezeki yang banyak
Selepas solat Isyak, ambillah segelas air lalu bacalah Surah Al-Fatihah sekali, Ayatul Qursi sekali dan Surah Al-Waqi’ah ayat 35-38 sebanyak 7 kali. Tiup dalam air dan minum. Dalam hati, niat untuk menjaga kecantikan diri dan kebahagiaan rumahtangga kita. 
Makna Surah Al-Waqi’ah Ayat 35-38 ialah : “Sesungguhnya, Kami telah menciptakan isteri-isteri mereka dengan ciptaan istimewa. Serta Kami jadikan mereka sentiasa dara (yang tidak pernah disentuh), yang tetap mencintai jodohnya serta yang sebaya dengan umurnya.

5. SURAH AL-KHAUTHAR
Sesiapa yang mengamalkan membaca surah ini sebanyak 1,000 kali, maka Allah s.w.t. akan menghasilkan hajatnya termasuk rezeki dan kenaikan pangkat. Sesiapa yang membaca 1,000 kali juga selepas solat Isyak hingga dia tertidur, insya’Allah dia dapat melihat Rasulullah s.a.w. dalam tidurnya.

6. SURAH AL-KHAAFIRUUN
Sesiapa yang membaca Surah Al-Khaafiruun, maka bandingannya seperti membaca seperempat Al-Qur’an, disamping terlepas dari syirik, terjauh dari godaan syaitan dan terlepas dari peristiwa yang mengejutkan (Riwayat At-Tarmizi). Sebelum tidur, bacalah surah ini agar kita mati dalam iman serta membersihkan kotoran dalam diri kita.

7. SURAH AL-MULK
Sebuah lagi Surah dari Al-Qur’an iaitu Surah Al-Mulk mempunyai fadilat dan faedah yang amat besar bagi sesiapa yang mengamalkan membacanya. Menurut beberapa hadis Rasulullah s.a.w., mereka yang mengamalkan membaca akan surah ini, akan mendapat syafaat dan keampunan dosa-dosanya. Mereka yang membacanya pada setiap malam, insya’Allah, akan terselamat dari azab kubur..

8. SURAH AL-IKHLAS
Rasulullah s.a.w. pernah bersabda kepada isteri kesayangan baginda, Siti Aisyah, antara mafhumnya : “Wahai Aisyah isteri ku, sebelum kamu tidur, khatamlah dulu Al-Qur’an.” Siti Aisyah lalu berkata, “Wahai suami ku, saya tidak mampu khatam Al-Qur’an sebanyak 30 juzuk itu.” Apabila mendengar kata-kata Siti Aisyah tersebut, Rasulullah s.a.w. sambil tersenyum lalu menjawab,  

“Barangsiapa yang membaca 3 kali sebelum tidur, seolah-olah ia telah khatam Al-Qur’an keseluruhannya. ”

Dari Rasulullah s.a.w.. pernah bersabda kepada Saidina Ali r.a., “Sesiapa hendak pergi musafir, kemudian ketika dia hendak meninggalkan rumahnya, ia membaca surah Al-Ikhlas 11 kali, maka Allah memelihara rumahnya sampai ia kembali.

Ibnu Said Al-Khanafi menerangkan : “Surah ini dinamakan Surah Al-Ikhlas, ertinya bersih atau lepas. Maka barang siapa yang membacanya dan mengamalkannya dengan hati yang ikhlas, maka ia akan dilepaskan kesusahan duniawi, dimudahkan di dalam gelombang sakratulmaut, dihindarkan dari kegelapan kubur dan kengerian hari kiamat.”

9. SURAH AL-FALAQ
Siti Aisyah menerangkan :
 
“Bahawa Rasulullah s.a.w. pada setiap malam apabila hendak tidur, Baginda membaca Surah Al-Ikhlas, Surah Al-Falaq dan Surah An-Nas lalu ditiupkan pada kedua telapak tangan, kemudian disapukan keseluruh tubuh dan kepala.

Barang siapa terkena penyakit kerana perbuatan syaitan atau manusia, hendaklah membaca Surah Al-Falaq dan Surah An-Nas sebanyak 41 kali selama 3 hari, 5 hari atau 7 hari berturut-turut. 

 Barang siapa yang takut akan godaan syaitan dan manusia, takut dalam kegelapan malam atau takut dengan kejahatan manusia, bacalah Surah Al-Falaq dan Surah An-Nas sebanyak 100 kali.

10. SURAH AN-NAS
Surah An-Nas adalah surah yang terakhir (ke-114) dalam Al-Qur’an. Nama An-Nas diambil dari kata An-Nas yang berulang kali disebut dalam surah ini yang bermaksud manusia. Surah ini termasuk dalam golongan surah makkiyah. Isi surah ini adalah bagi menganjurkan manusia memohon perlindungan kepada Allah dari godaan syaitan baik yang berasal dari golongan manusia mahu pun jin. Surah An-Nas ini juga adalah penerang hati.

Zikir .............

ZIKIR DAPAT MENCERAHKAN WAJAH...





Zikir utama adalah yang diucap dengan hati dan lisan secara serentak. Di antara kedua-duanya, zikir dengan hati adalah lebih utama daripada berzikir dengan lisan semata-mata.

Imam al-Ghazali berkata zikir itu terbahagi tiga kategori.:
 Pertama Zikir dengan lisan saja.
 Kedua Zikir dengan hati serta lisan secara paksa.
 Ketiga Zikir dengan hati yang dibantu dengan lisan tanpa paksaan.

Menguasai zikir dalam hati dan menumpukannya. Seterusnya Imam al-Ghazali memberikan pandangannya dengan berkata : Yang sedikit faedahnya dan lemah kesannya iaitu apabila lisan berzikir sedangkan hati di dalam keadaan lalai.

Firman Allah Petikan dari Surah al-Ahzab, ayat 35 yang bermaksud :
“Dan orang lelaki yang banyak menyebut (mengingati) Allah dan orang perempuan yang banyak menyebut Allah, maka Allah telah menyediakan untuk mereka keampunan dan ganjaran pahala yang besar”.

Rasulullah S.A.W yang bersabda maksudnya :
“Sesiapa yang mengucapkan ‘Subahanallah hil’azimi Wabihamdih’ maka akan ditanamkan untuknya sepohon pokok tamar dalam Syurga” – Petikan dari Hadis riwayat Muslim.

Hikmat lain adalah berturutan seperti :-

PertamaAkan mendapat keredaan Allah dan memperoleh ketenangan pada hati serta dapat merasakan kelazatan iman dalam jiwa.

Kedua Menimbulkan kejernihan,

Ketigakemanisan pada hati dan wajah.

KeempatMendapat kasih sayang, kecintaan serta keampunan dari Allah serta dimurahkan rezekinya.

Kelima Dapat merasakan betapa besar, agung, hebat dan berkuasanya kerajaan Allah. Segera mendapat pembelaan daripada Allah apabila seseorang itu berada dalam kesusahan dan kedukaan.
Ini terbukti dalam menjana kehidupan seharian sepanjang hayat yang kita lalui sama ada kita sedar atau sebaliknya.

KeenamMendapat penghormatan dan doa daripada sekalian Malaikat. Memperoleh pohon tamar dalam Syurga kelak, semakin banyak berzikir maka semakin banyak pohon tamar itu untuknya.

Ketujuh Mendapat nur (cahaya) daripada Allah dalam kehidupan di dunia ini, di alam barzakh(kubur) dan juga pada titian sirat nanti.

Kelapan Dapat membina rumah dan juga istana dalam Syurga. Apabila kita berhenti berzikir maka berhentilah pembinaannya di Syurga.

KesembilanDapat menjadi pendinding dan juga perisai daripada Neraka jahanam. Dapat mendekatkan diri kepada Allah untuk membuka pintu masuk segala kebaikan.

KesepuluhDapat menghalau dan mematahkan gangguan Syaitan terhadap dirinya. Dapat menghilangkan perasaan runsing yang bersarang dalam hatinya.

Kesebelas Dapat membersihkan hatinya daripada segala jenis kotoran dan juga penyakit. Dapat menjauhkan dirinya daripada segala jenis ketakutan dan kebimbangan.

Kedua belas Dapat menghapuskan dosa kecil serta maksiat kecil . Dapat melepaskan seseorang yang berzikir itu daripada sifat munafik.

Ketiga belas Apabila seseorang itu menyertai majlis bacaan yassin, tahlil, zikir dan selawat , dia sebenarnya menyertai majlis yang di hadiri oleh Malaikat.

Dengan berzikir juga seseorang itu akan sentiasa diingati oleh Allah sepertimana dalam firmanNya bermaksud : Ingatlah kamu kepadaKu ketika kamu senang dan susah , maka Aku akan mengingatimu.


Teruskan lagi dengan zikir2 munajat

Mulakan dengan surah Al-Fatihah

Maksudnya: “Dengan nama Allah, Yang Maha Pemurah, lagi Maha Mengasihani. Segala puji tertentu bagi Allah, Tuhan yang memelihara dan mentadbirkan sekalian alam. Yang Maha Pemurah, lagi Maha Mengasihani. Yang Menguasai pemerintahan hari Pembalasan (hari Akhirat). Engkaulah sahaja (YaAllah) Yang Kami sembah, dan kepada Engkaulah sahaja kami memohon pertolongan. Tunjukilah kami jalan yang lurus. Iaitu jalan orang-orang yang Engkau telah kurniakan nikmat kepada mereka, bukan (jalan) orang-orang yang Engkautelah murkai, dan bukan pula (jalan) orang-orang yang sesat.

Zikir Munajat



Maksudnya: “Maha suci Allah dan pujian itu bagi Allah tiada Tuhan yang lain melainkan Allah, Dialah Allah Tuhan yang Maha Besar. “
Diulang sebanyak 33 kali.




Maksudnya: “Allah-Allah-Allah- Allah Ya AllahAllah Ya Allah -Allah Ya Allah-Allah Ya Allah Allah-Allah- Allah Ya Allah Allah-Allah- Allah Ya Allah Allah Ya Allah -Allah Ya Allah-Allah Ya Allah




Maksudnya: “Maha suci Tuhan (Allah) Tiada kuasa makhluk mengatasi kudrat kekuasaan-Nya, Dialah Tuhan (Allah) di atas singgahsana Arash dengan kerana Esa dan Tunggal, memiliki segala di atas Arash langit dengan senang dan mudah demi kerana kemuliaan-Nya, semua wajah-wajah sujud dan tunduk kepada Nya.



Maksudnya: “Cukuplah perhitungan ku dengan Tuhan ku yang Maha Mulia, tiada sesuatu yang lain dihatiku selain daripada Allah, nur Muhammad S.A.W.
Diulang 5 kali




Maksundnya: “Tiada sesuatu yang lain yang tersingkap selain daripada Allah.
Diulang 10 kali




Maksudnya: “Tiada Tuhan melainkan Allah. Tuhan yang memiliki, Tuhan yang haq. Tuhan yang benar (nyata). Muhammad pesuruh Allah, benar segala janjinya lagi dipercayai.
Diulang 5 kali



Maksudnya: “Ya Allah, Ya Allah, Ya Allah, Ya Allah.



Maksudnya: “Tiada Tuhan yang lain melainkan AllahNabi Muhammad pesuruh Allah.



Maksudnya: “Kami memohon taubat kepada Mu Ya Allah, Kami kembali kepada Mu Ya Allah, Kami sesungguhnya menyesal atas perbuatan maksiat yang kami lakukan.
Diulang 3kali.



Maksudnya: “Ya Allah, selawat dan salam ke atas penghulu cahaya bagi segala cahaya, dan penghulu rahsia bagi segala rahsia, pembuka (kunci) bagi segala pintu kemudahan iaitu penghulu kami dan Tuan kami Nabi Muhammad, Nabi yang teristimewa dan keluarganya yang suci dan sahabatnya yang terbaik, berbagai nikmat Allah dan semua pejuang Nya.




Maksudnya: “Telah pun muncullah bulan purnama ataskami, Dengan pujian-pujian (sanjungan) kami mengalu-alukan. Ucapan kesyukuran kami ajukan, Seruan Allahkami serukan.




Maksudnya: “Selawat Allah ke atas Nabi Muhammad. Selawat Allah ke atasnya beserta salam.
Diulang 2 kali




◕‿❤ video~. .. zikir penenang hati
~ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9b8k3Pn4oY

55 Ways to Have a Happy Marriage .............


Marriage is a highly recommended Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (sws).

The purpose of marriage in Islam is to increase the Muslim community and not only to enjoy pleasure as the Messenger of Allah (sws) said;
“Multiply your wives, multiply your children and I shall be proud of you on the Day of Judgement.”

Although marriage is encouraged in Islam, Allah and his Messenger Muhammad (sws) haven’t left us to our rationality to discover what marriage entails and what things make a successful marriage. The following points highlight what makes a happy marriage based on the Qu’ran and Sunnah and how the husband and wife can gain each others heart.

Hadith: [Collected in Bukhari, Muslim and Musnad Imam Ahmed].
Abdullah ibn Masud narrated: “We used to sit with the Prophet (sws) and we didn’t have much money. He (sws) said
Whoever can marry should marry, it will help him lower his gaze or (if he cannot) he should fast.”

[Al-Qur'an 4:03] “And if you fear that you will not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls then marry (other) women of your choice, two, three or four; but if you fear that you will not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or those that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice.”

[Al-Qur'an 24:32] “And marry those among you that are single and (also marry) the Salihun (pious, fit and capable ones) of your male servants and female servants. If they be poor Allah will enrich them out of His bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people).”

1. Time apart.
Short separations (hours or a few days) will strengthen the marriage but long separations can weaken the relationship.
• As they say ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder.’

2. Understand each others’ fitrah.
The fitrah is the natural disposition of a person, e.g. Allah has created man and women with certain qualities that are innate in them.

• The hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (sws) states that  
“Every person is born on a state of fitrah, it is their parents that change them to a Jew, Christian or Fire worshipper.” (Al Bukhari and Muslim). Both the husband and wife must try not to challenge each others’ fitrah but to adjust to and accommodate the partner’s God-given nature.

3. Solve disputes on the same day.
• Hadith: Prophet Muhammad (sws) said ; “Don’t let disputes stay until the next day but solve them the same day.”
• Shaytan is always there to cause fitna for people especially between the husband and wife so it’s important not to let disputes last longer than a day otherwise small issues will seem very big.

4 Don’t speak about your past!
• Islam forbids speaking about the sins you committed during your jahilliyah days (the time before practising Islam).

5 Don’t expect perfection – live your lives naturally.
• Hadith: A couple came to Prophet (saw) and said ‘we make mistakes’ and He (saw) said ‘you are not perfect’.
• Always evaluate problems honestly and don’t expect miracles.

6 Convey your love and warm feelings to each other.
• Hadith: “You must express yourself to your partners”
• The wife of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) said: 
 “The Prophet (saw) never let a day pass without showing his affection.”

7 Fight against your own problems and don’t share anger with your partner.

8 Do not be critical of each other.
• Hadith: Prophet (saw) said “Do not be critical”. All type of criticism is forbidden in Islam.
• Islam allows certain type of lying in order to maintain a good relationship e.g. complementing on the wife’s cooking even if it doesn’t taste nice!

9 When disputing with your partner don’t expand the argument by adding all other previous disputes.
• Hadith: Prophet (saw) said “Dare any of you who sleeps with his wife in the night and then critises her in the morning.”

10 Never doubt your partner,
• Doubting each other can lead to the destruction of the marriage

11 Trust your partner and show you have full confidence in them.

12 Pick a suitable partner for yourself but also make sure that you are
also compatible for your partner.
• Hadith: A man came to the Prophet Muhammad (saw) after seeing a woman for the purpose of marriage and said ‘She is of good Deen but her father refuses’ He (saw) replied ‘did you look to yourself?’ (This man never went for jihad or was see among the men of Medina ). The man replied ‘Ya Rasuallah, verily you have spoken the truth”.

13 The main pillar to maintain good relationship between the husband and wife is purity hence cleanliness of body and house etc is important.
• Once a woman complained to the Prophet (saw) about her husband’s bad odour.
• Hadith: The Messenger Muhammed (saw) said “None of you who believe in Allah, spits and covers it.”

14 You need to sacrifice to maintain relationship.
• Hadith : The Messenger Muhammad (saw) said; “Sacrifice is the best gift between the husband and wife.”

15 ADVISE FROM A SAHABIYAT TO HER DAUGHTER;
• “Care about your husband like you care about yourself and love for your partner what you love for yourself.”
• The Messenger Muhammad (saw) will never eat before his wives as mentioned in a hadith “ The best amongst you is the one who raises the food and feeds his wife.”

16 Give your partner gifts.
• Exchanging gifts will cause more inclinations towards each other and strengthen the relationship.

17 Don’t be selfish!
• Give and take, don’t always take.

18 Don’t accuse your partner for problems e.g. by saying ‘You did it’ or ‘it’s your fault.’

19 Live for the day and don’t worry about tomorrow.
• Allah knows whether or not you are going to wake up in the morning!

20 Always remember that marriage is a divine bond, so think twice before doing something on the impulse which you will regret later.
• Hadtih: The Messenger Muhammad (saw) said; “Three things that are serious; marriage, divorce and freeing the slave.”

21 Although love is an essential part of marriage, do not take it for granted and abuse each other thinking that your partner will always love you regardless of ill treatment.

22 Be an example to your partner and let your actions tell and convey your personality.
• Hadith: Muhammad (saw) said; “To change your partner the way you wish, be the model for them.”
• Hadith: “Pray Qiyaam with your wife.”
• Hadith: Once Fatima (ra) the daughter of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) asked ‘How can I be closer to Ali (ra)?’ He (saw) replied ‘Pray Qiyaam ul-Layl with him and whenever he wakes up, wake up with him.’

23 Do not let parents, relatives or neighbours interfere with your marriage.
• Try to reconcile between yourselves as much as you can and if that’s not possible than allow a trustworthy Muslim to arbitrate.

24 Don’t rush into correcting differences which you perceive in your partner. There are some matters that can only be changed with time.

25 The couple must both accept the consequences and responsibilities that marriage brings and be satisfied.

26 Do not embarrass or humiliate your partner especially in the presence of other people.

27 Participate in collective activities together.
• Co-operating with each other will bring a sense of family life e.g. Picnics, BBQ, dawah projects etc.
• The Prophet Muhammad used to do collective things with his wives.

28 Do not look down to your partner or ridicule their capability rather let your partner express themselves.
• Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw); “The good husband is the one when the speaks he listens and when she complains he is concerned.”

29 The financial right (Naafaqah) of the wife is something serious and her husband must fulfil it.

30 Do not share your sadness and misery with your partner rather exchange jokes and laughter.

31 Do not allow your friends to interfere in your marriage.
• Aisha (ra) the wife of Muhammad (saw) once said to the women of the Ansar “Watch out! Do not give room for your friends to interfere in your own privacy.”
• Part of a man’s fitrah is that he has the right of authority in the family as the head of the household and also that no one should know about his affairs.

32 Let your husband feel that you are content with him and that you are proud of him.
• Hadith : Muhammad (saw) “Do not compare your husband with another man and don not compare your wife with another woman.”

33 During times of disputes remember the goodness of your partner.
• Hadith: Muhammad (saw) said; “The good deed abolishes the bad deed”

34 Abu Bakr (ra) said: “In order to understand the character and goodness of your partner, and to fight defection, remember;
• What you like about your partner?
• What happy experience has passed you two?
• What things you did together?”
• Umar bin Khattab (ra) said: “The good man is the one who makes his partner like him and appreciate him.”

35 Be careful not to use abusive words during times of disputes.

36 Have celebrations with the family.
• The Prophet Muhammad used to encourage his daughter Fatima (ra) and Ali (ra) to celebrate with their children.

37 The intelligent wife is the one who asks her husband for things at the right time e.g. don’t ask for a expensive dress if you know he can’t afford it!

38 Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said ; “Three things that should not be used My dignity, My status, My pride.”

39 Do not abolish the presence of your partner. Always have consult your partner, even if it’s for small issues like grocery shopping.

40 Do not run away from home!
• If you want to discipline the wife for doing something sinful then separate from the bed but don’t leave home
• Hadith: The Messenger Muhammad (saw) said; “Don’t run away from home”

41 Do not anger your husband by asking too many unnecessary questions and vice versa.

42 Do not desert the husband at home.
• Umar bin Khattab disciplined a woman for that and said to her; ‘Are you a woman or a man?’

43 Do not exchange roles!
• Allah (swt) has clearly defined the rights and responsibilities of the husband and wife hence it is not proper for us to swap them. A woman must remember even if she is working, her husband, children and home would always come first.

44 Respect the In-laws.
45 Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said; “Honour your mother in-law and call her by the best names (according to the tradition).”

46 Don’t let the neighbour interfere.
• Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said; “Look after your neighbours and participate with them in happiness and sadness and always command them to obey Allah.”
• Disclosing family secrets is not participating in sadness!

47 Be careful not to have disputes frequently, it will jeopardise the relationship.
• Learn to sacrifice in issues of permissibility in order to maintain tranquillity.

48 Always establish quietness, calmness and tranquillity in the home.

49 Do not interfere with your partner when they are disciplining the children except in an emergency where your partner is violating the shari’ah.

50 Look after your children and maintain a high standard of upbringing e.g. clothing, feeding etc.

51 Listen to your husband and try not to forget to do things for which he has asked you to do.
• Hadith: The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said ; “Teach your wife the chapter of An-Nisa, Al-Maida, An-Nur (from the Qu’ran).”

52 Shari’ah must be the centre of your lives and obedience to your husband is one of the means to Jannah.

53 Remember that Allah will always test you and there will be times that you may have domestic problems but remember every problem doesn’t mean the end!

54 Avoid arguing with each other especially in front of children.

55 The wife should not allow anyone to enter her home without the permission of her husband.


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Friday 23 September 2011

My Words ...............

My words, speak for my heart
Surprisingly not waiting for anyone
Expected nothing, but nothing…
Then noone can no longer disappointment me


My memories I can’t let go
Even If I wanted…
Providing comfort and pain,
In one thought.


My words, will no longer be said
My heart to remain broken
Silencing my words
Keeping them to myself


I know noone  care for them…
As I remain quiet
It burns my throat
And stings my heart


My words…
Are no longer words
Just the past…
And now just thoughts.

Loves Deceit ..............

Pleasure turns to the pain,
Of the lessons learned from the strain,
Of the questions burned in my brain,
About whether to love is humane
In its touch.


These thoughts are like salmon
Swimming upstream
In the tears of your deceit,
Fighting the current hurt
That kills more than is created
By the chaos of our intertwined emotions:
Chaotic because the anchor
Of Eros’ arrow has been plucked from the vessel
Of my undying infatuation.


Separation not as simple as the distance between us,
My mind no longer possessed
By the demons
That had been the overseers
Of my enslavement to your lies.


The seeds of these lies,
Rooted so deeply
They have cracked the foundation
Of what we once shared,
Allowing the faith in us I had sealed inside
To gush out like a river,
Ripping the image of our future together
From my thoughts
As violently and as brutally
As if it were a child being taken
From his mother’s arms.


I’m left surrounded in darkness,
But I refuse to be swallowed by it,
My loneliness like the night air.
Invisible to the eye, oblivious to the touch,
In its cold uncomfortableness.


Yet if I could do it all over again,
I’d do it in the same skin I’m in.
To lay down and let love die,
Just stay down and let love lie:
No, no, not I.
I’ll stay ’round and let love fly,
Even though I have seen its darkest form, deceit.
Nothing else could taste this warm
Or feel this sweet.

Understanding ................


How many times have you tried to talk to someone about something that matters to you, tried to get them to see it the way you do?
And how many of those times have ended with you feeling bitter, resenting them for making you feel like your pain doesn't have any substance after all?


Like when you've split up with someone, and you try to communicate the way you feel, because you need to say the words, need to feel that somebody understands just how pissed off and frightened you feel.


The problem is, they never do. "Plenty more fish in the sea," they'll say, or "You're better off without them," or "Do you want some of these potato chips?" They never really understand, because they haven't been there, every day, every hour.


They don't know the way things have been, the way that it's made you, the way it has structured your world. They'll never realise that someone who makes you feel bad may be the person you need most in the world.


They don't understand the history, the background, don't know the pillars of memory that hold you up. Ultimately, they don't know you well enough, and they never can.


Everyone's alone in their world, because everybody's life is different. You can send people letters, and show them photos, but they can never come to visit where you live.

Fulfills ...


When we give freely, we feel full and complete;
when we withhold, we feel small, petty, impotent, and lacking.

We are meant to learn this great truth, that giving fulfills us,
while withholding and trying to get, causes us to feel empty and even more needy.

This truth runs counter to our programming, which drives us to try to get something from others to fulfill our neediness, only to end up even more needy, grasping, lacking, and unfulfilled.

Thursday 22 September 2011

I Don't Care Anymore ...............

I'm tired of always
trying to please everyone
trying to understand everyone
in return

nothing ...

Except


Maybe for me to go unnoticed

totally unaware
of all those
emotions bottle up inside





Clenching my fist

I've always
went out of my way
to be nice

Yet


You just turned your

back on me

Let me slip down


Dark

Nothing

Now ..


Why should I worry

myself sick

Over


People

who
just
dont
care

or 
understand

Single ..........

I was too nervous to go to court yesterday. Just wirid while on the journey. Hold my daughter's hand firmly.
Entered the court room ... he was already there .. staring at me .

Then I heard my name called .... the judge asked both us a few questions .
Infront the judge .... he "let me go" ............. I whispered  Alhamdulilah ... Alhamdulilah ... Alhamdulilah !


At last .. I'm free .................. and SINGLE !

Sunday 18 September 2011

11 of the Most Colorful Cities in the World ...........

1. Guanajuato City, Mexico


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Nestled in the mountains of the Sierra de Guanajuato lies the beautiful colonial city of Guanajuato. The city was founded in 1554 next to one of the richest silver mining areas of Mexico. The 16th-century mining boom led to the construction of beautiful haciendas and fine colonial buildings.


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Guanajuato streets and many colorful alleyways spread out in every direction while most of its traffic is served by a network of underground tunnels making it an excellent city for pedestrians.

2. Willemstad, Netherlands Antilles
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Willemstad is the chief town of Curaçao located on the southern coast of the island. The Dutch colonial architecture of Willemstad is decidedly picturesque when set against the Caribbean waters.
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The historic centre of the city consists of two quarters: Punda and Otrobanda.  The Punda district is the main shopping area and the seat of government of the Netherlands Antilles. It is the oldest district of Willemstad, established in 1634. The bright and diverse colors of the buildings in Willemstad are justification enough to make the trip.

3. Valparaiso, Chile
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Valparaíso is a city and commune of Chile, center of its third largest conurbation and one of the country's most important seaports and an increasing cultural center in the Southwest Pacific hemisphere.
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The houses here are painted all different shades of bright colors. This was because when the ships were docked for repairs and repainting, they’d leave the extra paint on the docks. People would grab whatever paint they could find and paint their houses. The colorful houses have become a Valparaiso trademark

4.St. John's, Newfoundland, Canada
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St. John's is the capital and largest city of Newfoundland and Labrador, Canada and is the primary municipality of the St. John's Metropolitan Area. It is located on the eastern tip of the Avalon Peninsula on the island of Newfoundland.

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St. John's is a colourful place. The older houses with wooden sidings are brightly coloured especially in the downtown area (viewed here).

5. Manarola, Italy
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Manarola is one of the oldest towns in Cinque Terre and is nestled in the Italian Riviera. This picturesque village sprouts out of the mountainside to provide a breathtaking view of the Mediterranean sea.
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Just climb the winding streets and enjoy and espresso at any of the outdoor cafe’s and absorb the stunning scenery.


6.Wroclaw, Poland
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Wroclaw, located in the south-west, is Poland's most charming city. The town square dates back to the 12th century, and its 14th century brick Gothic architecture is particularly inspiring.
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Like most of the country, it has a strong Roman Catholic affiliation. Thus, cathedrals of celebratory hues line the streets.


7. Lima, Peru
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Unlike many of the tourist-driven towns on this list, Lima is very much a working city. Unique in its mixture of poverty, native and imported cultures and varied development, Lima is especially noted for its different architectural styles
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Spanish baroque, French neoclassicism and art nouveau buildings make the city an arena of colors and art.


8. Utrecht, Netherlands
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Utrecht city and municipality is the capital and most populous city of the Dutch province of Utrecht. 
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It is located in the eastern end of the Randstad, and is the fourth largest city of the Netherlands, with a population of 307,000.

9. Stockholm, Sweden
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Stockholm, one of the most beautiful capitals in the world, is built on 14 islands connected by 57 bridges.
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The beautiful buildings, the greenery, the fresh air and the proximity to the water are distinctive traits of this city. 

10. Jaipur, India
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Though not multicolored, Jaipur explore shades of pink. Nicknamed the “pink city, Jaipur, the capital city of the desert state of Rajasthan, features architecture of pink sandstone – from grand structures and forts to tiny markets. The town looks even more surreal with elephants, camels and cows strolling past the pink buildings.

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Painting a building a vivid color contributes greatly to the beautification of a town. A colorful facade has the power to turn an ordinary town into one bucolic and charming. If not quite ready to throw a bucket of purple paint on your home, visit these pretty towns and brave seeing the world in brighter color.

11. Jodhpur, India
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In the middle of the barren Thar desert you will find Jodhpur, also known as Blue City.  It got that nickname because every little building and house in this fortress city is painted in a blue color, so from above it looks like a blue spot in the middle of the Thar desert. 
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It is still unknown why they all painted in the color blue but some will say that it has something to do with the caste system in India. This historic city is full of forts, palaces and temples.
 
 
http://www.theworldgeography.com/2011/03/11-of-most-colorful-cities-in-world.html